Books, We Read 2 Books

Many people claim that reading marriage books before you get married causes great conversation and moments of honesty. I would have to side with them. Caleb and I read two books: "Things I Wish I Would Have Known Before I Got Married" and "Real Marriage". We were planning on more but two books for two kids who do not appreciate the leisure of reading did mighty good for two.

It seems like forever ago that we read Things I Wish... by Gary Chapman but I do remember the moments and exercises we did at the end of every conversation. We did really learn a lot about eachother. How does mom do things? What expectation do you have of me in A, B, C? Why do you need to be in charge of finances and not me? Do you want me to mother the children at home or shall I be a working lady? Things some of you read and think, "heck, don't live in that mentality. You are a woman with RIGHTS."  Peeps, I am pumped to "submit", I am excited to be dependent on someone. I have lived life depending on those around me but knowing at the end of the day I am independent in my decisions; It is all about me. Well, surprise... marriage is about us, we, the other one. I learned how that can look without being terrible and how it can look and actually be a natural feeling. We know what chores are to be done by whom and we know why it is a smart idea for me to have an allowance like a 2nd grader so I don't "lose" money on accident due to shoes and the GAP.

Real Marriage by Mark Driscoll was a'ight but seemed long and too over our heads. The struggle the Driscolls go through are for married peeps and not wannabes. The Sex section harmed us and didn't help us. We were put into the spot of "Is the birth control that you use abortive?" Ours is semi-abortive. What the crap!?!? (Another day, another blog post), we have not looked too far into it and we still use it so I think we are just fine for now. Mark and Grace, his wife, talked about how communication is crucial and WANTING to know you spouse is life or death for a marriage. We learned that going beyond the book and doing the "homework" is needed in order to take the book home. Caleb has done the homework, I am still working on it. Homework is answering questions, doing the hard work to figure out what a marriage is to look like from "A's" perspecitve and then seeing how that goes along with "B's" perspective. I think it will be great. We did learn about the stagnant moments of a marriage... they happen and we are not supposed to sulk in them but find a way out. Life is crucial to be done together if your marriage is to work. I believe that to be true.

So my takeaway...
I love Caleb with a lot of my heart and I know I have found my gameday buddy, my forever pal. He truely makes me the happiest and is the one to know me better than anyone else. I love that man. I love him. A lot. Soon and very soon I can hold possesion of him and no one else can even think about him without thinking of me. We are going to be one. Hoo-Rahhhh.

Final Dress Fitting - WOW!

Life is dwindling down, singleness I mean. I am LOVING spending countless hours with my man but thinking about that being my future has hit me. I am fully prepared to endure the trials and to embrace the triumphs but I don't think I know what everyday life will be like with him quite yet. I thought I had it all figured out and that we were going to be like we have been for the last 2 years. I am starting to think it will be a big change. Because I am with him for bfast, I take him to work, I come to his place right after work, I stay at his place until I am ready to go to bed, I feel like all I am missing is the nightly sleepovers. I have found out with all this time with Caleb that we do not see eye-to-eye on EVERYTHING and we get quite frustrated at each other for the SMALLEST things. It is kind of a blast to blog about but not so fun as we are knee deep in muck that sin has brought to each other and ourselves. Life is fun, huh?

So... on to the topic for the day. Bridal fitting. I have gotten some worries from those that have read my recent (a month ago) blog and I would like to say... I went to my final dress fitting and I LIKE MY DRESS A LOT! It is so ironic how much something can change in your mind when you look at it from a different view (and you change some things, ha). The dress is so beautiful and I think the day will not feel perfect with my dress in it. I was thinking about giving a sneak peek but then I decided, "I am so close and I love surprises, I will just keep it a total secret." I bought my birdcage veil and I have gotten some photos of what I want my hair to look like. I also lost my wedding shoes for a good month and now I have officially found them and they are perfect still. Caleb looks incredible in his suit and he has found some shoes to wear on our day. The flower girl dresses are close to being done, the bridesmaid dresses fit great on the girls and their shoes are adorable still, I have my jewelery picked out, the hairdresser is in place, the make-up lady is all about my day, the bands know what to play, the MC has gotten the music to play on the IPOD, and finally... the details are ALL coming together.

I am getting so close to be a Klinge is a a lil nerve-racking.

2.5 week from tomorrow. Bah!

Songs for the Wedding!

Caleb and I are diligently listening to music on the radio to create a playlist for the wedding. We have regulations though… it has to be considered oldies, it needs to be danceable, and it needs to be about love. Ha, ha. Writing those out seems super cheesy but I am smiling from ear-to-ear thinking about the songs we have already thought up.

Thus far, my faves are “still the one” and “baby, hold on” Do you know these ones? GOODIES!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YTE12zOHuFI

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SbH_sDyWZqo

Have I told you guys about our first dance song? Well here it is according to Ingrid Michaelson who took it from Elvis Presley BUT Caleb and I will be fortunate enough to dance to the melodies from his two sisters doing THEIR rendition. I am literally more excited about that moment of hearing and dancing the song than I am for the rest of the dance time. The moment of being just Caleb and I looking into each other’s eyes and being serenaded is beyond exciting. Sheesh!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V0xcgpb_4QA

Are there songs that you all do not want to miss that fit the criteria? I really want to get all good songs at least play for a moment. You too?